Mar 2, 2016
Hi! My name is Nobita, a native Japanese guy.I'm a Web Designer in Japan. I have a YouTube channel, "Find Your Love in Japan" to show "real" Japanese people for you.
You're putting all the pressure on the black person. When I lived in Japan there were a few guys I wanted to date and I asked some guys out and I got rejected. That's ok. Not everyone is going to like me but I know my blackness was one of the reasons why I was rejected. I was actually told that in one instance. While I'm glad it seems a lot of women would date black men, and it looks like things have changed since me moving there, I still think it's hard for black people to find love in Japan. I'm hoping to move back and I KNOW dating is the last goal on my list. If I were a man it might be easier but I know as a woman...well I better get my man for $24.99 out a plastic box.
First of all I think it doesn’t point out the real problem. Let’s make an experiment. Place un a room 10 Japanese girls interested in gaijins. And then place 10 gaijin men with white guys , black men, Asian men and so on. From a purely statistical point of view, the Japanese girls will be more drawn to the white guys than blacks. I’m not black but I truly understand what they are facing. I see that every time at international events. They don’t have the advantage of being considered physically attractive. They have to make the first move and clear each hurdle individually and be more patient than white guys. They don’t start the 100m race with a 50m advantage. The most important is: If you ask them if they care about the color of their skin they will OBVIOUSLY SAY NO. But if you see how they ACT, then it’s obvious that black gaijins don’t enjoy the same privileges. So this is why just considering the interviewees answer as a proof is dangerous and misleading. This is why for them the only way to make it is to compensate this disadvantage with something else. Charisma, looks, confidence, can make it. However they still have to “over-improve themselves” for the same result. Most of black guys see Japanese girls with eyes filled with stars when they look at white guys for example.