Since my husband is Japanese and we are planning to stay in Japan we wanted to give our son a Japanese name.
In Japan, the total number of strokes in one's first and last names combined can be lucky (or unlucky?!) Japanese parents often pay around 5000 yen to get a lucky name from a shrine. What if the shrine thinks 50 strokes is lucky? I would have to spend the rest of my life writing that lucky name (not so lucky for me)! In this respect, I like "Hajimi" which is just one stroke, but is it lucky? Don't Japanese get confused and think it is a dash? Also, doesn't it sound strange to say "Hajime desu. Hajime mashite?"
"Genki" also has simple kanji and a nice meaning, but again, how strange to say, "Genki-san, genki desuka." There is a similar problem in English with the names "Yu" and "Mi".... " (girls names) or "Shu".... "I am you," or "I am me" or "I am shoe."
I think the sound of a name is most important since we are going to use/hear that name everyday for the rest of our lives. I like "Joji" but my dad thinks it sounds girly, and my husband thinks it sounds the same as "George." "Joji" with kanji meaning "second son" may have a lucky number of strokes, but alas, this is our first son.
Many bicultural couples name their sons "Ken" or "Riki." No thank you. Besides being too common, Ken is the name of Barbie doll's blonde blue-eyed partner and Ricky was an overweight boy I knew in my school days.
I would like to use one kanji from my husband's name in our son's name, but I would also like to use my father's name or grandfather's name as a middle name. By the way, do you know why Japanese don't have a middle name? It's because just choosing one name is complicated enough!