On the extension of expat guilt

I notice that expat life leaves me feeling guilty quite a bit. I've missed weddings and funerals, years of loved ones lives, and just the day-to-day connection that you get when you live in the same place as your family and friends. 

I didn't realize until fairly recently that it's also something that happens on the flip-side of things. My sister and my brother in law are headed off to Europe this week, on a couple of months vacation (half their luck!) that they've been planning for a while. However, most years they come to visit us here in Japan, and when she originally told me that they were headed there instead of here, she was the one feeling guilty.

She felt bad for not being able to come and help out to give my husband and I some respite for a date night or even a couple of days away while they'd take on childcare duties. She felt bad that she wouldn't get to see the kids in person and would have to settle for video calls for a while longer. There was just lots of guilt from her side of things, almost like she felt like she needed to ask me for permission to travel somewhere other than Japan. Of course, I never want her to feel beholden to me just because I made the choice to live overseas – but I guess that's the thing, guilt doesn't always make logical sense.

Do your friends or family feel guilty about not being able to visit you (or opting to travel somewhere else)? Conversely, if you find yourself feeling guilty about not being able to travel back to your home country regularly, how do you deal with that in a productive way?